6 Tips on How to Have a Strong Relationship

How to Make a Relationship Work


Show Affection

  1. Decide to love.Infatuation is typically what sparks loving relationships. Then the excitement fades and warm feelings diminish unless both partners make conscious efforts to renew their feelings for one another.
  2. Be romantic.Romance is essential to have at least some of the time. Candles, candlelight, compliments, stargazing, watching the stars, sunset or sunrise, fireworks, romantic bubble baths, showers, and romantic dinners are good ideas. Inject a little romance into some of the things you do and some of the places you go.
  3. Settle disputes peacefully.Apologize, forgive, and make up with each other. If you threaten to break up with each other after every fight or argument, you will never really resolve anything. Take breaking up off the table. Talk through disagreements as long or as many times as it takes until the issue is resolved and both of you feel comfortable moving forward.
    • Don't generalize when you argue. Words like "always" and "constantly" can make your partner feel like they never do anything right. Talk about specific instances, and try not blow things out of proportion.
    • Talk about the good with the bad. Start off by saying how much you love the person, and how committed you are to making the relationship work.Thengo into your complaint, if you have one. It will make your partner less defensive.
  4. Remember that intensity of emotion can ebb and flow over the years.There may be times when you are less aware of your love, more into your own interests, perhaps even more selfish. Those are the times to remember all the wonderful things you have done together, and still want to do.
    • It's natural for your feelings about your partner to change over the course of the relationship. After a couple years, infatuation takes a back seat to faithfulness and trust. This doesn't mean that you're not in love anymore; it just means that your love has matured.

Method 1 Quiz

When you argue with your partner, you shouldn't:

Develop Trust

  1. Establish trust on all levels.Mutual trust is founded in respect and loyalty toward each other. Strive to understand and respect your differences. Share and clarify your differing perspectives, and try to empathize with each other's point of view.
    • In some cases, it is better to simply agree to have differences of opinion, or your own ways of doing things. We're all different, and that's okay. You wouldn't want to be dating yourself, would you?
    • Pressuring your partner to do something that they really don't want to do, or neglecting or abusing them (whether emotionally, verbally, physically, or sexually) hurts your ability to trust and rely on one another.
    • Be able to trust each other in everything, keeping private your partner's innermost secrets, fears, and struggles. Help your partner overcome them.
    • When you say you'll do something, follow through. Keep your word. Realize that fulfilling simple, basic commitments every day lays the foundation of trust that extends to more challenging situations.
  2. Spend time together.Carve out time doing relationship-building activities. Really get to know each other and build a connection between you that's strong and enduring. Talk on the phone nearly every day, and try to see each other at least 2-4 times per week.
  3. Spend time apart once in a while.Spend time by yourself pursuing hobbies. Just ensure that no other relationship or pursuit crowds out your partner from being your first priority.
    • Focus on loving yourself. If you love yourself, your partner is invited to love you more. Do things for yourself that demonstrate your self-respect.
    • Don't neglect your friends. A lot of people enter relationships and then neglect their friends, feeling lonely when if/when the relationship ends. Don't forsake your friends; they'll help you discover yourself or stay groundedwhileyou're in the relationship.
    • Don't neglect your partners' friends. You can better understand the person though her/his friends. You might not like all of them, but you should never push your partner into a choice between you and them. There must be a reason why she/he chose those people, try to find it and build up a relationship with them based on that positive aspect of their character.
  4. Support each other.Be there through the good, happy, sad, and bad times—no matter what. Be emotionally available when your partner needs it. We go through a lot of turmoil and difficulty in our regular lives; knowing that your loved one is there to comfort, reassure, and encourage you makes the process a whole lot easier.
    • Listen. Sometimes, all we need is someone who listens to our troubles or is kind enough to sit through our rant. It's simple but profound.
    • If your partner resists your attempts to comfort them and doesn't want to talk about it, ease off of the subject and wait until they seem to be in a better mood before returning to it.
  5. Don't play games or intentionally act distant to seek control over your partner.This is a form of abuse. If your partner speaks to you, reply with compassion. Never stay silent and avoid them.
    • Recognize the patterns of a manipulative relationship. If you find manipulative patterns in your relationship, seriously consider whether you and your partner can overcome them, and how detrimental they are to the relationship. Sadly, most manipulative relationships stay manipulative. Here are some signs to be on the lookout for:
      • Does your partner make you feelguiltywhen confronted about his/her behavior? Does s/he deflect criticism by saying that you don't love enough, don't do enough, don't help enough?
      • Does your partnershameorintimidateyou in getting something they want? Does your partner then try to pass off insulting remarks as jokes, criticizing you when you take them seriously?
      • Does your partnerrationalizeevery part of their bad behavior with justifications that are slightly off? Are they long on excuses but short on changes?
      • Does your partner deny ever doing anything wrong byplaying innocent? Are they incapable of acknowledging mistakes by flat out denying that mistakes happened?
  6. Think of your partner when making decisions.Your wants and needs are just as important as your partner's. If you give nothing of yourself, then you'll get nothing in return. Ask yourself, for big and small decisions alike, if:
    • Your decision is good for both youandthe relationship. A decision that's good for you but bad for the relationship obviously doesn't make things easy.
    • Your decision is good in the short term but bad in the long run. You might want instant gratification for the relationship, but if it's unlikely to help the relation in the long run, consider other possibilities.
    • Your decision is good for your partner but bad for you. Thinking of your partner can only happen when you take care of yourself. Don't consistently make concessions for your partner if they aren't willing to make some for you.
  7. See family as one, not two.Your in-laws or your partner's parents can be hard to deal with, but if you want a relationship with your spouse/partner, you'll need to have a relationship with them.
    • Don't try to find fault. We've eager to dismiss the blemishes of our own parents but point out the blemishes of our partner's. Try to break this cycle. Give both sets of parents the benefit of the doubt before your judge them.
    • Go with the flow. Resist the need to be completely in control with your in-laws. Try things their way. Be accommodating. Bend with the wind, don't break!
  8. Remember that every person, couple, and relationship is different.Don't compare your relationship to anyone else's—not your parents or other family members, friends, coworkers, that couple whose relationship seems perfect, etc. Every couple makes their own love rules, love agreements, love habits, love routines, and so on. Just focus on you two and making your relationship the best that it can be.

Method 2 Quiz

Which of the following is not a sign of manipulative behavior?

Communicate Effectively

  1. Communicate about anything and everything.Have deep and meaningful conversations once in a while. Discuss what's going on in your lives right now — social life, school life, or family life — and learn about each other's pasts and childhoods.
  2. Make continual efforts to maintain your relationship.Work on it. Work hard at keeping it positive, upbeat, healthy, and the very best it can be.
    • Have a conversation with your partner about what aspects of your relationship they believe could change for the better. Improve the things you both agree can be improved.
    • Challenge yourself to do at least one nice thing for your partner every single day. It could be a simple text, an errand, a smile, or a kiss.
  3. Don't scream at each other.Nothing gets solved in screaming at someone else. It just raises the tension between you and more than likely will create more issues than it solves.
    • Things are best handled if each person gets a chance to talk. This means you listen to what your spouse has to say and respond with your feelings as they listen.
    • If you are being screamed at, calmly let the person know that screaming isn't helping and ask if they will also please listen to your perspective.
  4. Be completely honest with each other.A truly emotionally intimate relationship requires open and honest communication. Keeping secrets from your partner creates a barrier between you that limits your mutual emotional trust. Honesty can be scary, but if you want your relationship to thrive, then you both need to believe in it.
    • Never cheat or be disloyal. Whatever you do behind your partner's back, imagine them doing it to you. Treat others how you want to be treated.
    • Tell your partner when something is bothering you. Trust your partner to tell you when something is bothering them. Expect loving honesty from your partner, and expect them to want the same in return.
    • Be honest without being harsh. Don't bruise your partner's ego unless it needs bruising. Ease into criticism gently, without frustration, with a smile and a loving heart.
  5. Cooperate.If you don't agree on something exactly then there is probably another option. Look for different solutions that you can both see eye to eye on. There are many ways to do something but if we cooperate with each other it will end in the best result for the individuals involved and probably get things done faster.

Method 3 Quiz

What is the most affirming way to show your partner you care?

Relationship Help

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    How do make things work with my boyfriend? We barely hang out, he doesn't text me all the time, and when I'm with him he doesn't talk much.
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    Tell him how you feel. Communication is really important, if you don't tell him how you feel and what you want in the relationship, he probably won't know. It sounds like he's shy, but if he really likes you, he should be willing to make an effort.
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    How do I make my relationship work if my boyfriend hit me?
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    Don't. Leave him. If he hit you once, he will hit you again, even if he says he won't. You deserve better.
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    What should I do when my boyfriend says he wants space? We had a misunderstanding and now he says I should give him time to think, but I love him with all of my heart and am not ready to lose him, but he's not talking to me.
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    If your boyfriend wants space, give him space. Let him know that you're willing to talk when he's ready, and let him come to you. Determine what's a reasonable amount of time for you, and if he hasn't been in communication with you, you'll have to move on.
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    How can I stop talking about my exes?
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    By deciding not to. There's really no "step-by-step" guide to quit talking about them. It's a decision you have to make by telling yourself that they are in the past and that is where they belong. You are in the present, and you should not allow the past to hold you back from enjoying the present.
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    How can I make my relationship work if my boyfriend is not romantic?
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    Talk to him about what being romantic means to him. He may view it differently. For example, he may think romance is about doing you favors while you think it is buying you flowers.
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    Why does my partner never want to take me out, but he is always out around other girls?
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    He doesn't respect you if he's treating you like that. Leave him. You deserve better.
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    Why does my girlfriend make things so hard for me when I'm the one bringing in the money?
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    Well, bringing in the money doesn't mean that your girlfriend doesn't have a right to express her feelings, so maybe you should both sit down together and truly listen to each other's sides to find out what's going on. You can find out why she's been giving you such a hard time and hopefully come up with a solution together.
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    What should I do when my bride-to-be a verbally abuses me, despite my having told her how the name calling makes me feel?
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    Dump her. Why would you want to spend your life with someone who demeans you? You deserve to be with someone who respects you.
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    Does sharing play a part in a relationship?
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    How do I make my relationship work if he barely pays attention to me?
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    It sounds like you need to have a conversation with him about what each of you expects from each other. If things don't get better after talking, it may be time to leave him if you are that unhappy.
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  • Always be yourself but be prepared to compromise in order to help and develop a relationship into one with equal effort.
  • Listen to your feelings, but don't forget to be rational.
  • There is always somewhere to go and something to do with each other as a date, so be creative and search around for ideas on what to do and where to go.
  • Infatuation generally lasts for 2 years as studies show. Keep this in mind, and if your relationship manages to be 2 years or more, then chances are you two have something that is more than skin deep.
  • Make sure to take some time to yourself over the week because hanging out too much could lead to one partners feelings to shift from love to annoyance.
  • Always be creative in the bedroom.
  • Have Saturday or Friday "date nights" for you as a couple (basically a weekly date). This works whether you're in high school, college, or beyond.
  • Remember, if you're boyfriend and girlfriend, basically anywhere you go together and anything you do together is a date. Have fun and bond with each other.
  • Use relationship resources to help your relationship - e.g., books, relationship therapists, counselors, and psychologists.
  • Be open with each other and let your partner know if you are hurt by what has been said.
  • Handle matters with a level of maturity in a relationship. Behaving childishly will not do you any favours.


  • A relationship should be healthy, caring, loving, kind, upbeat, and positive. It should make your life better. If your life feels trying, upsetting, and worrisome, and even more so when you spend time with your boyfriend or girlfriend, it may be time to reassess.

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